TEEN DATING VIOLENCE
Dating violence includes psychological and
emotional abuse, physical abuse, and sexual abuse.
It occurs with casual dating or serious
long term relationships.
Signs of Abuse in Your Dating
- Your boyfriend or girlfriend pressures you
into a serious relationship or to have sex soon
after you begin dating.
- Your boyfriend or girlfriend becomes extremely
jealous and possessive and displays those
feelings with destructive displays of emotion or
- Your boyfriend or girlfriend tries to control
you by being bossy, giving orders, making all
the decisions, and refusing to take your views
- Your boyfriend or girlfriend puts you down in
front of friends and is often critical and
- Your boyfriend or girlfriend yells at you,
swears at you, is manipulative, spreads rumors
about you or tries to make you feel guilty.
- Your boyfriend or girlfriend threatens you or
makes you worried about his or her reactions to
things you say or do.
- Your boyfriend or girlfriend abuses alcohol or
other drugs and pressures you to use them.
- Your boyfriend or girlfriend has abused others
and brags about it.
- Your boyfriend or girlfriend grabs, pushes,
shoves or hits you.
- Your boyfriend or girlfriend makes your family
and friends uneasy and concerned for your
- Your boyfriend or girlfriend has a history of
failed relationships and blames the other person
for those problems.
What You Can Do:
- If you are in a dating relationship that makes
you feel uncomfortable, awkward, tense or
frightened, trust your feelings and get out of
- If you are in a violent relationship, or a
potentially violent relationship, get help. Talk
to someone you trust. You may also want to
contact the police or a domestic violence
center. Call 2-1-1 for contact information for
domestic violence hotlines, sexual assault
hotlines, counseling resources, or youth talk
- If you suspect that someone is in an abusive
relationship, encourage that person to get help,
be supportive, and talk to a third party you
trust, but do not try to handle the situation on
- If you suspect that someone you know is being
abusive, and you feel sure you are not in
danger, talk to the person about his or her use
of violence and encourage the person to seek
help. Call 2-1-1 for referrals to
programs that will help that person learn how to
stop being abusive.
- If you are hurting your boyfriend or
girlfriend, get help. Call 2-1-1 for
intervention programs or other counseling
resources or youth talk lines.
TO FIND PROVIDERS IN CONNECTICUT’S
COMMUNITY RESOURCES DATABASE:
Search by service names:
Partner Abuse Counseling
Violence Intervention Programs
PREPARED BY: 211/rj
CONTENT LAST REVIEWED: June2012